• Are you feeling stuck in a tense situation?
• Are you motivated to improve this situation but aren’t sure how?
• Are you willing to look at the situation and the people in it in new ways?
• Would you value partnering with a coach to gain agency and understanding?
• Are you willing to work towards your conflict relief goals (knowing the only person we can change is ourselves)?

If you answered yes to these questions, read on.

Coaching is a partnership focused on your goals and growth. Together, you and your coach set a goal—like reducing conflict by improving communication—and take small, steady steps towards it.

Your coach listens with empathy, asks thoughtful questions, and offers supportive role plays to help you gain clarity. Unlike consulting, coaching isn’t advice-giving—it’s about helping you uncover your own insights and solutions.

Your past may naturally come up, and you decide what to share. As long as both of you stay centered, you can keep working toward your conflict relief goals.

Since Conflict Relief Coaching often touches on emotional subject matter, it is sometimes confused with therapy. This example helps illustrate the value of coaching and the recognition of its limits (when turning to therapy is the right choice).

Coaching isn’t therapy and does not diagnose or treat mental health conditions (such as anxiety or depression). If conditions like these arise, coaching stops while you get support from a licensed professional.

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You’re not alone – many of us avoid conflict at any cost. But avoiding conflict doesn’t bring relief – it still impacts our peace of mind. 

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) identifies unresolved conflict as a risk factor for adverse health outcomes. Chronic conflict and emotional suppression, which often result from avoidance, create a stressful environment that can lead to resentment and emotional distress. This lack of open communication and peaceful problem-solving is linked to an increased risk of depression and anxiety.

Conflict is inevitable, but being stuck is not. If you are ready to work towards finding relief, read on. 

Conflict Resolution (mediation) focuses on solving a specific issue by bringing both people together with a mediator—often after the conflict has escalated.

Conflict Relief Coaching Sessions focus on supporting you as you navigate conflict. Sessions are private, and your coach listens with empathy, asks grounding questions, and helps you understand your reactions, options, and next steps. Relief and meaningful change are possible whether or not you choose to engage the other person. For ongoing or complex situations, coaching helps you take steady, intentional steps that build clarity, confidence, and healthier patterns.

Conflict Relief Workshops are sessions where I teach and guide your group or community in learning and practicing these skills. Workshops provide a safe environment to practice with people who are not part of your conflict, helping your community build shared skills that support well-being and peaceful coexistence.

Request a complimentary 15-30min discovery session to explore whether Conflict Relief Coaching is a fit for you.

Authenticity matters—but it can feel risky when acceptance is at stake. When there’s a power imbalance or your livelihood could be affected—as in workplace or landlord/tenant conflicts—that risk can feel even more intense. Although it may seem too risky to be authentic, it doesn’t have to be.

Conflict Relief Coaching helps you explore your situation with empathy and understanding. You’ll learn to recognize what drives judgment and choose how you want to show up—staying grounded, honest, and connected, even in challenging dynamics.

The conflict communication skills you’ll develop draw from Marshall Rosenberg, PhD’s Nonviolent Communication, specifically John Kinyon’s Mediate Your Life framework and Oren Jay Sofer’s Say What You Mean.

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The only person we can change is ourselves.  In doing so, we change relationship dynamics, which often improves the relationship as well. 

Conflict Relief skills and processes build a greater understanding of the situation as a whole; this often expands empathy and tends to bring people together. Still, you can find relief independent of what another person chooses to do.

Coaching sessions can help you feel better prepared for an upcoming interaction. Debriefing with your coach afterwards can help you process how the interaction went and decide how you want to move forward. Preparing and debriefing can help you feel more settled and bring peace of mind.

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Not all conflicts are between people. An internal conflict arises within yourself. Common examples of internal conflicts include:

1. Struggling with harsh judgments from your Inner Critic.  
2. Endless spinning thoughts when trying to make a decision, often accompanied by a lot of “shoulds”.
3. Setting a goal but falling back into habitual patterns that prevent you from accomplishing it.

Inner conflicts can affect your peace of mind, including sleep patterns and anxiety levels.  Settling inner conflict can bring more self-acceptance, inspiration and forward progress.

If you are generally struggling with political conflict and the state of the nation and world, then I highly recommend checking out Braver Angels (including this video for navigating tough emotions) and John Kinyon’s Healing Spaces for the Societal Challenges We Face.

If you are struggling with political conflict in your relationships and would like 1-1 support, Conflict Relief Coaching may be a good fit for you.  As a long time moderator for Braver Angels, I have experience helping people navigate political conflict in relationships. I’ve seen the patterns that drive people apart and the shifts that can help bring them together.

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If you are working a 12-step program, Conflict Relief coaching can be a strong complement, supporting the guidance you receive from your sponsor and your Higher Power.

In Steps 4–7, coaching helps you look at your character defects—or coping habits—with understanding instead of blame. Seeing how those habits try to protect you can shift frustration into self-compassion and inspire new, healthier ways to respond.

Steps 8–9 can be especially hard when you’re still upset about the harm you’ve experienced. Conflict Relief coaching offers a safe, grounded space to process those situations and prepare your heart for making amends. Through gentle reflection and role play, you can find empathy and readiness to take the next step.

As your recovery evolves, some relationships may shift or fade. If you want to maintain or strengthen meaningful connections while staying true to your program, coaching can help you do that with honesty and respect.

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Conflict Relief processes are applicable to workplace conflicts, if Conflict Relief Coaching is generally a fit for you.

If you are interested in proceeding, rest assured that I understand power structures and challenges that can accompany business relationships. In addition to my qualifications as a Conflict Relief coach, I have a 30+ year career as a business professional, navigating conflict both formally and informally. 

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I offer 1:1 Conflict Relief Coaching sessions for you and/or skill building workshops for your group or community. In the future, I may add mediation as an option.

Conflict Relief Coaching sessions can be purchased individually or as part of a discounted package.

Conflict Relief Workshops can be sponsored by a private group or community organization.

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